Published on September 6, 2006 By cherryrouge In Personal Relationships
I have this though cruising through my mind all time. I am a foreign language trainer. Last month I had taken up a new batch for training, the first few days pass by without any hitches. The participants seem to accept me and show interest in my teaching. However, I suddenly set my eyes on this particular participant who has a very reserved manner, very polished behaviour and who carries h-self in a very appreciable manner. I dont seem to grasp whats happening to me, i seem to like this person more and more everyday, I meet this batch twice a week, ofcourse in the class room I am very professional, I dont strike up any particular conversation with this participant, nor do i acknowledge the presence in any special way. But I am strongly pulled towards this person. We finally had a conversation outside the class, and I even got asked out by this person. We both had gone for coffee and had a wonderful evening. My question is, is this all ethical? Can any trainer go out with a person who is learning under the trainer? Where exactly do I have to draw the line? This person seems very nice and harmless and who would not in anyway expect any favour from me, nor will take any advantage of this relationship. Can anyone drop in a line for me? Id really appreciate it.
Thanks for taking the time to read out this.
yours
cherry

Comments
on Sep 06, 2006
Cherry,

This is definitely a question in regards to conduct. I would suggest that you state for your and their protection that nothing can happen between you while you are training. You can be friends but NOTHING more. You have a reputation and a level of profesionalism as the trainer. Not that you would neccessarily slant your grading towards this person just best to leave this fire alone till AFTER training. If there is genuine interest then it can wait. I see to much on the line to chance it. Maybe exchange info at the end to keep in contact. That's my suggestion. But who am I? Just and adventuring dude.

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